Okay, gotta join the herd
Mar. 21st, 2002 12:04 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
thebratqueenI won't claim I'm always original - I gotta do my own LJ entry in response to Kit's fan-shaped fans blogger post. Actually, it's in response to the responses. I think plenty of people have already covered the topic of "Um - maybe my weight isn't any of Kit's business." with a few side orders of "And wouldn't it be nice if she actually did some research before assuming she knew the facts about weight, health and cultural norms.."
What I find to be interesting is how people are responding to it in their own journals. I won't claim I've got a full sampling of fandom the Net-over, but the random ones I've come across, and the comments in response to them, have an interesting sort of attutide to them. If I had to describe it I'd call it "Well yeah I'd stand up for myself, except first let me apologize for being so fat."
Um, no.
Let me be the first to not apologize for my weight. Let me be the first to tell you I don't give a fuck. Guys, who are you apologizing to? And second question, why?
Who has the bigger say in your life? Let me give you a hint here - if the answer to that question ain't you, your weight is not your biggest problem. You're the one who has to haul your ass out of bed in the morning, face yourself in the mirror and deal with what's there every fucking day for the rest of your life. Not me, not fandom, not your family, not your friends, not anyone. You. So if you're in a situation where you think you need to apologize for having an opinion about yourself we need to change something here.
This isn't about fat vs. thin. This is about taking ownership of who you are. If you are the way you want yourself to be - guess what? You're done. You have managed to please the total number of people who have a vote in this situation. Other people may not like it but tough shit - they don't live in your skin.
Bringing this back to the start of it all - if you don't agree with Kit, then don't agree with Kit. Don't feel like you have to sit there going "Although I do know I should probably lose a few pounds" or "Well, gee, I guess I've got some other illnesses which are my bigger priority than my weight." Fuck that! Are you happy? Then good! Song's over, move on!
In a way this reminds me of tenebrael's "Things I like about my body" post. Allow me to do a flipside of that:
Things I'm not going to apologize for:
Weighing over 200 pounds.
Wearing whatever I want to.
Being bisexual
Being pagan and Christian and Unitarian Universalist
Swearing
Having my own opinions
Not being afraid to point out when people are being stupid
Living life on my own terms
Doing things because I want to
Being a fanfic author
Being a slash author
Being myself.
What I find to be interesting is how people are responding to it in their own journals. I won't claim I've got a full sampling of fandom the Net-over, but the random ones I've come across, and the comments in response to them, have an interesting sort of attutide to them. If I had to describe it I'd call it "Well yeah I'd stand up for myself, except first let me apologize for being so fat."
Um, no.
Let me be the first to not apologize for my weight. Let me be the first to tell you I don't give a fuck. Guys, who are you apologizing to? And second question, why?
Who has the bigger say in your life? Let me give you a hint here - if the answer to that question ain't you, your weight is not your biggest problem. You're the one who has to haul your ass out of bed in the morning, face yourself in the mirror and deal with what's there every fucking day for the rest of your life. Not me, not fandom, not your family, not your friends, not anyone. You. So if you're in a situation where you think you need to apologize for having an opinion about yourself we need to change something here.
This isn't about fat vs. thin. This is about taking ownership of who you are. If you are the way you want yourself to be - guess what? You're done. You have managed to please the total number of people who have a vote in this situation. Other people may not like it but tough shit - they don't live in your skin.
Bringing this back to the start of it all - if you don't agree with Kit, then don't agree with Kit. Don't feel like you have to sit there going "Although I do know I should probably lose a few pounds" or "Well, gee, I guess I've got some other illnesses which are my bigger priority than my weight." Fuck that! Are you happy? Then good! Song's over, move on!
In a way this reminds me of tenebrael's "Things I like about my body" post. Allow me to do a flipside of that:
Things I'm not going to apologize for:
Weighing over 200 pounds.
Wearing whatever I want to.
Being bisexual
Being pagan and Christian and Unitarian Universalist
Swearing
Having my own opinions
Not being afraid to point out when people are being stupid
Living life on my own terms
Doing things because I want to
Being a fanfic author
Being a slash author
Being myself.
